Shared thoughts from a retired Child Psychiatrist, prior columnist, husband, father of 4, grandfather of 7.
Wednesday, November 18, 2020
Tuesday, November 17, 2020
Confirmation Bias
Justice Amy Coney-Barrett is clearly an accomplished, bright, and articulate juror. I don’t happen to agree with her conservative interpretation of constitutional law. However, partisan shenanigans aside, she was a worthy appointment to the Supreme Court.
During her
confirmation hearing, she responded to the Senators' questions with sound legal
theory and reasoning. But from a psychological
perspective, her explanations were nonsense.
She was trying to sell the idea that Supreme Court cases are decided
objectively, guided by philosophic principle, each case decided on its own
merits. Not so.
Human
behavior is hard to predict. But I believe
that a Supreme Court justice’s vote can be predicted with at least 90% accuracy. After all, no one is surprised when a
‘liberal’ judge votes liberally or when a ‘conservative’ judge votes
conservatively. However, when Chief
Justice Roberts voted with the liberals on an Affordable Care Act case, some were pleasantly surprised, but others were shocked and dismayed. The liberal judges weren’t criticized for
voting liberally. The conservative
judges weren’t criticized for voting conservatively. That’s what everyone expected. But when Judge Roberts did not vote with the
conservatives, as predicted, he was roundly criticized. His vote, in that case, was the exception
that proves the rule.
If each court
case was really decided objectively, only upon its own merits, then the outcome
could never be so predictable. Something
else is going on. That something else
is, in psychological terms, called confirmation bias.
Psychologically,
we often don’t base our beliefs upon facts, we find facts compatible with our beliefs. We often don't make decisions based upon facts, we find facts that support our decisions. Simultaneously, we deny, ignore, or dispute any contradictory facts.
I assume
that each of the Supreme Court justices are the best of the best jurists. I assume that cases brought to the court are
highly complex, often ambiguous, with many facts and precedents to consider,
and with compelling arguments presented from both sides.
In complex court cases, being considered by the best of minds, each judge must review many facts, often contradictory facts. Then, if I am correct (and I am), they base their judicial opinions on the facts that best conform to their biases. Conversely, they deny, ignore, or dispute any facts that may seem contradictory. There is no such entity as a judge that is objective and without bias. That’s just not human psychology. If you know where a Supreme Court judge is on the political spectrum, then you know how the Supreme Court judge will vote, at least 90% of the time.
Ironically, confirmation bias seems to have a double meaning. I didn’t need the recent Senate confirmation hearings to know how each of the Senators would vote. Senators selected or ignored facts, as the facts did or did not conform to their biases, but facts never changed a single vote. The votes, for or against Judge Coney-Barrett’s confirmation, were preordained. The confirmation hearing was nonsense, a waste of time and energy. I can confirm that, without bias.
Thursday, November 12, 2020
Americans
"Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it." (George Santayana, 1863-1952)
“Un-American.”
That’s what a T.V. commentator called the
70-million Trump voters. I disagree. That would be like saying that the throngs of
adoring Germans were ‘un-German’ as they stood shoulder to shoulder in pre-war Nuremberg
square shouting “Seig Heil!” To the contrary, they were very German. They stood there able to overlook the lies and
rantings of a charismatic madman, because he promised to make Germany great
again. The German economy was improving.
Inflation was contained. The trains ran on time. The military was rebuilding. After the humiliating
World War I surrender, Germany was once again emerging as a major power on the
world stage. The common man, the disaffected
and forgotten German citizen, now felt a rising sense of power, purpose, and
pride.
German
history, German culture, and German literature would be cleansed,
decontaminated from the influence of Jews, Socialists, and other undesirables. Beautiful Aryan children would be taught a
new and noble German narrative from an early age. From Germany would rise a new generation of
uber-menschen, supermen.
Socialism,
with its global agenda, was the political enemy without and was effectively
silenced by brown-shirted thugs. The only significant obstacle between the
German people and true greatness on the world stage was the conspiracy of the
plotting “international Jew.”
Fast forward
to the pre-election MAGA rallies, the mini-Nurembergs, with adoring Trumpers,
unmasked, standing shoulder-to-shoulder chanting “lock ‘em up’ or ‘fire Fauci’.
Only the stiff-armed salute was missing. The 70-million who voted for Trump are
not un-American. They are very American,
a new kind of right-wing conservative American as defined by Trump and endorsed
by Hannity and Ingraham and Carlson, by Ted Cruz and Jim Jordan and Lindsey
Graham, by Bill Barr and Mike Pompeo, by Mitch McConnell and Mike Pence.
These new Americans
scare me. They promote conspiracy theories, and ignore facts and science. They rely heavily on insults, threats, and banners,
but seem deaf to reason. They value
the Dow Jones, the second amendment, and their inalienable rights, but mock integrity, responsibility, and decency.
What is
happening to my country? Why did
70-milliion citizens vote for Trump? Why
do so many Republicans continue to openly support this sociopathic president, and
his unsubstantiated claims of election fraud and conspiracy? Why have so many other
Republicans in power been silent?
Why, in the
1920’s and 30’s, did the arguably most cultured and enlightened of all European
nations embrace the falsehoods and conspiracy theories of the
lunatic Hitler? Because he made the
trains run on time? Because he made Germany
great again? Far too many Germans enthusiastically
supported Hitler. Too many others remained silent, and we know the consequences.
American is not Germany, Donald Trump is not Hitler, and The Art of the Deal is not Mein Kampf. But human nature and mob psychology are the same, then and now. Trump is petty, vindictive, powerful, and dangerous. He lost the election. And yet far too many Republicans, good Americans who know this to be true, remain silent. Do they not remember the past?
Friday, October 16, 2020
Darth
“Woe, who say “good” to evil and “evil” to good . . .” (Isaiah, 5:20)
I am a
registered independent voter. Often in
the past I voted a split ticket. I admit,
there were even a few elections where I did not vote. Come hell or high water or Covid, I will vote
in this election.
Often, in
past elections, I voted ambivalently, for whomever I felt to be the lesser of
two evils. Not this election. This election is a choice between evil and
not-evil, the force of darkness versus the force of light, Darth Vader versus Mr.
Rogers. Darth, surrounded by his
all-white heavily-armed storm troopers. Mr.
Rogers, sometimes boring, sometimes hard to listen to, but empathetic, trustworthy,
wanting us to get along and to be neighborly.
I struggle
to understand the millions of fans who adore this Darth, and who will
never be persuaded otherwise. Why do some
people admire his strutting, his posturing, and his bombast? Why are so many willing to believe, forget,
overlook, or rationalize his flagrant lies?
I can’t wrap my head around those who excuse and forgive his blatant
incompetence. I don’t understand those
who seek four more years of his divisive and hate-filled speech, his racism and
his support for right-wing white nationalism.
This Darth
is undeniably diagnosable. At least three diagnoses from the mental health bible,
DSM-5, are accurately descriptive:
·
Paranoid personality disorder is a pattern of distrust and suspiciousness such that
others’ motives are interpreted as malevolent.
·
Narcissistic personality disorder is a pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack
of empathy.
·
Antisocial personality disorder is a pattern of disregard for, and violation of, the rights
of others.
And, by the
way, this current Darth is no stable genius.
He’s not even very bright. He’s
propped up by the Hannity’s, the Ingraham’s and the Carlson’s, FOX commentators
who are intelligent and articulate. But
they are ideologues, each one promoting a conservative right-wing agenda. Darth
gives them some muscle. In return, they
give Darth some credibility. Darth is their convenient and accommodating means
to an end. Each of them is too smart not
to detect Darth’s lunacy. But to an
ideologue, any means justifies the end, even if it means supporting lies,
deceit, and corruption.
I cringe at
the thought that this Darth might win the election. If he does, I will remember a line from a
different story, a different movie, when the world appeared overwhelmed by
darkness. “There is some good in this world, Mr. Frodo, and it’s worth fighting
for.”
Never before
has my generation feared violence in the aftermath of an election. Never before has my generation felt so much
at stake in one election. Never in my
lifetime has democracy seemed so threatened and so fragile. Now, we anxiously wait
to see how Darth and his henchmen will try to suppress the vote and subvert the
election.
I brace myself
for whatever may occur after November 3rd.
May the force be with us and may the future bring us some beautiful days in
the neighborhood.
Tuesday, October 13, 2020
Do-Overs
As a kid, I used to play baseball and touch-football in the park across from my house. There was no adult supervision. There were no referees. Often there were close plays and disputed calls. I don’t remember the disputes ever leading to fights. It never got that serious. We kept it fun and friendly. We agreed to do-overs.
I used to
golf. If the course was not too busy and
I made a bad shot, I took a mulligan, a do-over. My friends did the same. None
of us were competitive golfers. The
do-overs gave us a chance to practice a few extra shots. It gave us a chance to play the ball from the
fairway instead of from the deep rough or two fairways over. Do-overs made the game less frustrating.
I used to
bowl. Among my friends we had an
understanding that, with a gutter ball, we got a do-over. We could make a mistake and pretend it didn’t
happen. There was a little harmless
self-deception going on as we calculated our final scores. Today, with
electronic scoring, bowling is not so forgiving. Do-overs are no longer allowed.
When I was
in public school, do-overs on tests were not allowed. A do-over meant having to do the entire grade
over. That kind of do-over was serious business, nothing to be desired (so I
was told by those in-the-know). When my
children were in public school, they were occasionally allowed do-overs on
assignments and exams. As a parent I
questioned that policy.
I used to
play chess and other board games with my friends, no do-overs allowed. However, when I played Connect-4 or other
games with kids in the office, I not only allowed do-overs, I encouraged them. The game was not a competition. My job was teacher, coach, and therapist. I wanted to teach kids to slow down, to look
carefully at their options, and to learn from their mistakes.
I play
poker. There are no do-overs.
In life,
there are limited opportunities for do-overs. Career do-overs and marriage do-overs are sometimes
possible but not easy and not always the best choice. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should
take a do-over. A do-over doesn’t
guarantee better outcome. Usually, the
lesson learned from a major life do-over is, “wherever I go, there I am.”
As for raising
children, there are no do-overs.
With age, there
are less chances for do-overs. Instead, there are more what-ifs. Psychologist Erik Erikson said that around age
65 we begin to assess our life, looking back with either a sense of
satisfaction or with regret, feeling that life has been worthwhile and
well-lived or viewing much of life as squandered and meaningless. I have a few regrets, mostly trivial. For the most part, I look back on my life
with pride and satisfaction. I don’t need or want a do-over.
Sunday, October 4, 2020
Love Letters
It was 6th grade. My friend Paul and I were looking through old boxes in the basement. We found a stack of love letters my father had written to my mother during World War II. We were fascinated by the ‘mushy’ parts, laughing quietly as we read them, until my mother discovered what we were up to and put an end to it.
Not so long
ago I reread those letters. I
transcribed them and arranged them in sequence. I wanted to get a glimpse of my father as a
young man. I wanted to construct a narrative of my
father’s war experience. I wanted to
understand my parents’ courtship, the months and circumstances immediately
preceding their long and often unhappy marriage.
In 1943, my
father received his commission as a 2nd lieutenant and was sent to bombardier
school at Lowry Air Force Base in Denver, Colorado. That’s where he met my mother. Ninety days later he was transferred from
Denver to Euphrata, Washington for B-17 flight training. That’s where the letters begin.
In December,
my father was sent overseas to England with the 8th Air Force, 91st
division. Between January and April 1944,
he flew 25 missions over France and Germany.
Among his medals, he received the Distinguished Flying Cross and the
Purple Heart.
Researching
official military records, I found reports from each of my father’s 25 missions,
including dates, details of the intended target, the number of airplanes lost, the
number of airmen killed, and the number of airmen missing in action. In his letters, my father did not (and perhaps
could not) mention any of the details of these missions. The most he said was, “It was rough, but
don’t worry.” Sometimes, when the
missions were particularly difficult, he didn’t write at all.
My father
was a Jewish airman fighting against the Nazis.
Strikingly absent from his letters was any mention of Hitler, or Germany, or religion, or country.
The letters expressed no philosophical, political, or patriotic thought.
He began each letter “Helen Darling,” and wrote about returning home to the
girl he loved. A few times he added a romantic
verse of Robert Burns’ poetry. Occasionally
there was a request for some hard-to-obtain food item. Otherwise he wrote with
immaculate penmanship in a tone of resolve and reassurance.
In one of my
father’s letters he wrote that there were stories from the war he would one day
tell his children. He never told us those
stories.
Before being
sent into combat, my father had known my mother for only a few months. Was he really writing to my mother or to a
fantasy, the girl he needed my mother to be?
Perhaps being in love was my father’s necessary distraction from the
horrors of war. Confronted with a
terrifying present, there must have been some comfort imagining a romantic
future.
After
completing his missions my father was transferred back to the states. One month later he and my mother were married.
Sunday, September 13, 2020
Human Nature
“The tendency of man’s heart is towards evil from his youth.” (Genesis 8:21)
I kept a set
of wooden building blocks in my office. Watching children play with those
blocks I learned much about human nature.
Watch a young
child with a set of blocks, and notice that there is a destructive side of
human nature. A tower built with the
blocks is there to be knocked down. The child
will laugh, smile, and wait for you to build the tower again so that it may
once again be knocked down. Notice the child’s
delight as the blocks are scattered helter-skelter, the louder the better.
As the child
gets a bit older you may notice the child getting into a cycle of stacking
blocks, knocking them down, and then stacking anew. Then comes a time when the child hesitates, stops and
looks. This represents a subtle shift, an
internal tension, to knock down or to let stand. The child now allows the tower to remain erect, adding to it, wanting it to be taller and more elaborate. You see, beginning to emerge, that there
is a creative side of human nature.
Not only
does the child admire the now standing tower, but the child seeks out others to
notice what has been created. There is
an approval-seeking, praise-seeking side of human nature.
The child
will defend their tower from destruction by siblings and other children. If asked by adults to put away the blocks, the child may
request that the tower be allowed to remain standing. There is a possessive and protective side of
human nature.
There is
a competitive and aggressive side of human nature.
One’s own tower is protected, but another’s tower is looked at with
jealousy and envy. Another builder is a
feared rival, especially if the other is a sibling. The child may want to destroy the tower of their
rival. Parents step in. “You want to
knock down your brother’s tower, but you are not allowed to do that.” To live peaceably
with others, that child must be taught social rules and constraints. Nurture must now modify nature. It is okay to
have the feelings, but it is not okay to destroy. Human nature must be kept in check.
With time, the
destructive side of human nature will become internally regulated, no longer
requiring the external prohibiting parental voice. But somewhere, deep within, there often remains
an echo of that early destructive nature.
There is pleasure in the crash of a Jenga tower falling, the crash of
bowling pins scattering, the crash of bumper cars colliding, the crash of bodies
playing football, the crash of buildings imploding during demolition. Fortunately, for most, the destructive side of
human nature recedes into the largely unconscious background as the creative side
grows and develops.
Watch two
children with a set of blocks and they may discover pleasure in sharing, building,
and creating cooperatively with one another. Good news, there is a social and affiliative side to human nature.